Confident & confident in dealing with power & status: Appear powerful thanks to eye level!

To be respected, to have influence, to be respected, "to apply something" - who didn't want that? Whoever has many options for action is more powerful than someone who has no or only a few. But how do you get there? And isn't power often something bad?

Who wants to shape, needs power

I am often in the Coaching faced with the reservations that many People have against power: that power is something evil, something that one would exploit and abuse - so one prefers to keep one's hands off it.

Power helps own Set enforce. And who on eye level communicates, can be more constructive negotiate. A subjectively felt balance of power is often sufficient. Freelancer negotiates with multinational company – where is the balance of power, please, you might ask. The answer: It's all a matter of attitude!

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What many people do not see: In order to have influence in a social relationship, in order to enforce one's will against the reluctance of others, in order to weight our own interests more than the others, we need power.

When it comes to the Future to design according to your own ideas and to solve many other challenging ones Tasks, you need personal resources and often also financial ones, relationships, Status, in short: power.

Knowledge is power!

Often the way to eye level leads over the Background. Knowledge is power - knowing nothing is nothing, as the saying goes. This is clearly a saying of the powerless.

If we are not dictators, despots, or emperors personally, we need knowledge.

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But that alone is not enough if we are not able to make ourselves and our knowledge accessible to the “right” people in powerful networks of relationships.

Whoever invests in these “generally also reaps returns in the form of access and opportunities,” writes Dagmar Deckstein in the SZ in her review of the book “Die Fromel der Macht” by Harald Katzmair and Harald Mahrer.

Powerlessness does not make you happy

You don't want to assert yourself against the reluctance of others? Do you see this as an abuse of power? But fainting is much worse for most, both literally and figuratively. Because mostly we wake up from this

Fainting just not in the arms of a prince or a princess, but annoy us about the fact that of all times we have pulled the short straw, we have not considered, once again the stupid others were preferred ....

We decide for ourselves!

And it's often not the others who are there circumstances, life as such, the economy, the general political climate or a Chinese butterfly to blame, but we alone.

We decide whether we want to earn power and status or whether we prefer to be pushed back and forth as a mass of disposition. And we also decide for ourselves how we use power: exclusively for our own benefit or also for the benefit of others. Cynical and self-righteous or as a means of problem solving.

What makes a sovereign driver?

At the beginning is the consideration: Prefer to steer the bus on the driver's seat, determine the direction and speed or rather ride in the last row? What makes a sovereign driver?

Is it physical or mental superiority, my special knowledge, my high level of organizational skills, my social skills Expertise? Or do I tend to exploit power structures and Anxiety to produce in the subjugated?

Only if you Ask has clarified for yourself, you can tackle the second step: How do I achieve power or how do I appear more powerful?

Always have a plan B in your pocket

Basically, trust in the quality of your own Performance and products, in one's own skills, that is self-confidence and self-confidence in the classic sense help further.

Above all, the “Best Alternatives To The Negotiated Agreement”, the BATNA”. As a power factor, it "makes" more independent and therefore stronger. Why does that give more power? Very simple: They are not like that light can be blackmailed if you are not dependent on a successful negotiation with this partner in precisely this matter.

How it works? In preparation for a negotiation, an argument, a Konflikt I think about an alternative in the event that I cannot realize my minimum expectations. If the pain threshold is not reached, I still have an ace up my sleeve, according to the motto: other parents also have beautiful children.

Information is power

Inform yourself! What is needed above all is access to information and, if possible, Control the communication channels. Protect your information and don't share it with anyone as a matter of course.

Uncover theft of ideas - it's not just “about the thing”, but also about profiling as the author. The powerful can not take anything away with impunity - he decides for himself when he can and should be generous.

Speak the language and body language of power

Have you ever seen the Queen run? Of course not, that's not how the powerful move. The Queen has high status - she lets things run. That's what the lackeys do. The body language of the mighty is more economical than that of the infantry.

Posture and status are closely linked. We can often already recognize the (status and power) claim on the body language of a person: does he stretch wide or narrowly, does he occupy much or little space? Does he give me away - physically or with looks - or does he confront me? A changed body language always changes the status position.

Avoid the words of the powerless

Eliminate words like “I'm being fooled” from your vocabulary forever, because the powerful cannot be fooled. The same applies to the use of the word outrageous - only the powerless want others to behave "ashamed", of course in the hope that they would then have more power themselves.

The powerful says "I". The powerless uses “one”. Even worse and underlining your own powerless situation "you can't do anything about it anyway". Another version that is heard a lot is "it has always been like this". Only powerless people accept conditions that they do not like. Powerful people are working to change them in their favor.

With little effort, the first steps and successes on the way to power will be achieved fast to adjust.

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