The Problem from People, who want to be perfect at all costs is that they completely overextend themselves. Reason: Your striving for perfection and the frantic effort to avoid mistakes at all costs.

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Because nobody can always give 110% and most people know that too. But that's how they go from the start negative approach the matter because they at least unconsciously completely clear is not actually being able to solve the problem; the fear of failure is then greater than the will to Success.

The problem with this: When you feel overwhelmed and Anxiety becomes the driving force of one's own actions, negative distress arises. This always occurs when you don't know a way out, because the human Brain due to a lack of experience, does not have a quick solution mechanism available for this problem.

What the research says

In contrast to eustress, we do not experience flow in such situations, but feel often helpless and at our mercy.

Swiss researchers have found that this distress even clouds our memory. This is because cortisol is released from the adrenal cortex, which is supposed to protect the body from overexertion. Among other things, it blocks memory and leads to high blood sugarspiegel and over-acidification of the blood and a weakening of the thyroid function. Therefore, clear thinking becomes increasingly impossible in particularly stressful situations.

To think clearly becomes more difficult

As a result, you are less and less able to think clearly, but turn much more meticulously in the hamster wheel, block yourself and, in the heat of the moment, overlook the fact that in many situations there are also simpler ones ways would give.

You would only have to manage to approach things a little more loosely, instead of blindly actionism to expire.

Decisions

But many perfectionists run the risk of thinking about one thing for so long, one decision really brooding over it and getting so worked up in fears and worries that they are finally no longer able to act.

An experimental study conducted by psychologists Neil J. Roese and JR Kuban at the University of Illinois shows that the longer you ponder, the harder your brain has to work and the more difficult it ends up appearing to be Solution of the problem.

When determination matters ...

This is particularly disadvantageous where decision-making and leadership skills are important in everyday working life. And it becomes a real problem when it keeps delaying or neglecting important work. Or when actions take place headlessly and in panic instead of well-considered and calmly.

Perfectionism is considered a cardinal virtue, but it is anything but good for you Career. Apart from the fact that you can drive the individual into a dangerous vicious circle, which often leads to Burnout leads, perfection mania even hinders the professional one Ascent.

Respect please!

Surprisingly, perfectionism doesn't go down well with superiors. Because they are happy about the hard-working worker bees who take care of every move immediately, but at the same time they have none Respect in front of them.

A study by the RespectResearchGroup (RSG) at the University of Hamburg, shows why this is so: people simply have certain ideas about how competent and respectable people should be: namely, among others, trustworthy, reliable and fair.

Perfection does not work, of course

Unfortunately, a perfectionist sends completely different signals to his own Executive: Instead of sovereign through his Competencies to score points, he shows with his efforts to do everything right and to please everyone that he is not at all convinced of himself. So why should the boss trust his abilities?

And despite all efforts, such people are not really reliable, because the shot goes backwards: Anyone who constantly takes over all the work of colleagues and supervisors for fear of negative reactions, soon has a problem, all the accumulated work for reasons of time take care of.

... and not so well

Important Tasks are then always pushed back or not finished at all. This is not particularly productive:

The economist Winfried Panse, Professor at the Cologne University of Applied Sciences, even calculated that fear-driven employees at least 20 percent less Performance provide.