Psychologically well researched
Does the person sitting across from us believe that they are in control of their own destiny and that through their own behavior they can change themselves and the things around them for the better? If so, that is self-efficacy belief.
The fact that the self-efficacy conviction is so well researched is due in particular to the fact that psychological research is once a disease-related research and we therapists know that the success of a therapy depends to a very great extent on this resilience factor
You have probably already had close contact with someone, a good friend, a partner, someone in your family who, for example, had difficulty coping with a separation or perhaps a termination. You then likely tried to understand the situation, gave the person tips and advice on what to do to make them feel better.
In this connection, you may recall that the person kept replying to you: “Yes, you are right, but I simply cannot forget him / her”, or: “I cannot do this, I have no strength for it and besides, it doesn't do anything anyway Sense. "
Hopeless or lack of self-efficacy?
You probably gave up after a few, usually long, frustration, maybe you even gave up the contact with the person. It seemed to her no use.
What the person was missing was nothing more than a good self-efficacy, so the conviction that she can change something about her situation.
No sacrificial roll!
This factor is also important in two ways. First of all, of course, because highly resilient people have a firm conviction that can be expressed very well with the following sentence: "I am not a victim, but a creator of my world!"
They also rarely go into this victim's role as victims. This would paralyze them because they would then blame external factors beyond their control for making them feel emotionally ill.
Always keep control!
What highly resilienated people gain with their self-efficacy is, besides a feeling of serenity in dealing with the adversities of life, a sense of control over themselves and the emotional state in which they are.
They are almost always convinced that they have the “book of their life” in their own hands.
All a question of attitude
The second reason why this factor is important concerns you as a reader of this book. Especially if you want to further develop your resilience.
As an attentive reader, you will not have missed the fact that a large number of the seven factors mentioned here are linked above all to our attitudes, attitudes and the perspectives that we occupy.
- Am I able to find an attitude to a situation that makes me feel positive or that the situation is meaningful (emotion control)?
- Am I someone who sees the glass of water half full or half empty, and I want to change that (Realistic Optimism)?
- How strong is my willingness to take me once, to listen, to put myself in the skin of the other (empathy)?
- Or how strong am I willing to end a discipline that I do not like so much, because I know that this will give me a good feeling and bring me closer to my goal (impulse control)?
Change the departed
We know from psychological and neurobiological research that people through continuous training can also change very deep-rooted attitudes and learn their whole life. The majority of the animals can not do this.
Nothing else is described with the term "personality development". This path can be rocky and arduous, as these attitudes have often been established in our brains for decades in the form of neuronal structures.
On the highway of habit
There they form the term of the neurobiologist Prof. Dr. Gerald Hüther, heavily used and firmly concreted highways, which are automatically used when we encounter similar situations.
Sometimes, however, they also change very quickly, especially because the benefits of a new attitude were presented to us in a sudden and emotional manner. Things suddenly go much easier than before.
The Journey is the Goal
Only if you believe that you can change your own attitudes, so if you build up your own self-confidence, you will also confidently put aside the setbacks that you will inevitably face in developing your personal resilience.
In other words: already working on your own resilience will make you a more resilient person.
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