Just as our lips imitate our letter sounds, our eyes and hands also emphasize ours with their movements Rede. What we mean, we clothe not only in words, but also in looks and gestures. And so we show, for example, clear: Stay away from me.


With eyes threatening

How we communicate with our eyes also depends on whether we are speaking or listening. When listening, the other person feels it is normal if we look them in the eye – we are signaling our attention, our undivided devotion to them message.

The situation is different for those who actively communicate themselves, who are currently speaking. If, while he's talking to us, he – maybe also with us light narrowed eyes - fixed without letting our gaze wander once in a while, this has a threatening effect on us. The kindest words leave us with a bad feeling because of this “accompaniment”.

Power struggle of the eyes

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So it is normal to occasionally turn your eyes away during the active conversation. Only those who want to emphasize their words, who “penetrate” their counterpart with their eyes, want to hypnotize it. Unfortunately, it does not always achieve the desired effect.

After a few minutes, the listener can only concentrate on the power struggle of the looks, he no longer perceives the content of the words. who will verlieren, who will look away first?

Blow your nose

A threatening look can not only be supported by the contracted eye area. A typical “threatening look” is also caused by raising one or both eyebrows. So that the eyes are not opened too far (which would symbolize a rather open facial expression), pull the upper eyelids down a little.

So that the other person does not disappear from the direct field of view, the Head slightly raised. This creates the typical “senior teacher look”: condescending, instructing, rebuking.

Rump nose - but right!

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In contrast to the eyes and mouth, the nose is not very "expressive". In spite of this, or precisely because of this, even the shortest possible nosefoot is registered very clearly and usually consciously.

A short wrinkling of the nose is a clear sign of displeasure. "That pisses me off!" The small changes in the eyes, however, are only perceived unconsciously.

Of the three monkeys

When we listen and are skeptical about the matter we have received, we like to hide behind a wall of protection. If we have no files at the desk in front of us, our hands have to fulfill this function.

Fingers interlocked and thumbs set to the pointed “fortified roof”, feel we feel a lot better. Then the other person can talk, your own defense is set up. So fast it will not penetrate our bulwark.

The hand as a protective barrier for the face

The hand also serves as a protective barrier for our face. Not only the famous three monkeys hold their eyes, ears and mouth shut, through one or the other gesture we try again and again to protect our senses from too much information from the outside.

Even if we'd rather hold back the words we're about to say, we may cover our mouths with our hands for a moment. At a lie or if we are unsure, we like to hold our noses – is it getting longer, like the unfortunate Pinocchio? All these little gestures on the face express defense or defense in one's mind Conversation .

Internal defense

Anyone who gesticulates expansively with supposedly open arms seems dynamic and extroverted. However, if the palms are directed almost exclusively inwards, ie toward one's own body, then one would rather protect oneself from too much something new.

The openness is deceptive - he does not let anything and nobody approach him so quickly! The crossed arms in front of the chest can also express this inner defense.

Beware of misinterpretation

But at this point we would like to make a fundamental consideration about the interpretation of our body language contribute: Not every gesture we make can be easily and unambiguously translated. Every movement of our body is due to some kind of stimulus.

This stimulus can come from the outside or from the inside. Feelings and unpleasant messages can be such stimuli. So if we get a bad message and cross our arms over our chest, it's clearly a defense gesture, an emotional safeguard.

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