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From Dr. Denis Mourlane (More) • Last updated on October 04.09.2023, XNUMX • First published on 27.03.2013/XNUMX/XNUMX • So far 5437 readers, 3259 social media shares Likes & Reviews (5 / 5) • Read & write comments
Impulse control is an important aspect when it comes to Set to reach. But that's exactly what a lot of people have People a Problem. What do successful people do better?
You may remember the final of the World Cup, France versus Italy, in Berlin, it was a while ago. Zinédine Zidane is insulted in the worst possible way by his opponent Materazzi, goes back to him and gives him a brutal headbutt in the chest.
In this situation, he had neither his emotions nor his impulses below Control. And what do we learn from this?
What is important here is to see that this behavior is complete clear of his goal, that is, of his Success achieved: winning the World Cup in the last game of his career.
Perhaps you are one of the people who say: “Done right! Finally someone who doesn't put up with anything ”, and maybe this attitude stems from the fact that you would actually like to do something like this yourself, but always have to hold back.
In my work as a sports psychologist, I myself have asked numerous professional team athletes what their Opinions and I can guarantee you one thing: I have not met an athlete who would have understood this gesture.
There was not one who did not say: “He would have got really into trouble in the cabin because we probably lost the game because of that. He was no longer under control. ”
Highly resilient people know how to effectively control their first impulses, especially in pressure situations. This is not only in situations of strong emotions Significance, but also in our everyday life.
Therefore, impulse control is not to be equated with emotion control, as one might assume at this point. Impulse control can also be used with the well-known and not very popular word Discipline to be translated.
Because highly resilient people are in an excellent position to work in a concentrated and attentive manner on a task and not constantly distract themselves from others Tasks, ideas Or get people distracted.
They also consistently pursue their goals, get things done and, in turn, gain a positive feeling of how satisfaction or pride in having accomplished something.
Do you know this situation in which you want to close your e-mail program just before the end of the day and see that there are still three e-mails that you can not remember? Or that you are frustrated at the end of the day because you feel you have not achieved or completed anything?
This is exactly why impulse control is in ours Working world of highest importance. Especially when we are pursuing tasks that don't bother us that much Fun do, and these are part of working life, nowadays it is extremely easy to follow your first impulse.
First read the email that just came in, the phone rings, I'll go fast turn, the colleague takes a coffee break and invites you to go along, long time no facebook or checked it out on XING. The chances of getting distracted have never been so great.
yes, ours Welt has become more networked and therefore more complex and many researchers claim, as I said, that this is exactly what makes us ill and leads to burnout.
I claim that it is not the complexity that makes us sick, but the way we treat it. Professor Fredmund Malik, one of the leading management thought leaders of our time, presents the following provocative, but also very relevant thesis in his book “Leading, Achieving, Living” on page 325:
“Almost all of the often discussed side effects of intensive work and professional pressure such as Stress, hustle and bustle, damage to health and many family quarrels can be traced back, I claim, to deficiencies in the way of working. You don't get sick like that from a lot of hard work light. You get tired of that. You get sick from inefficient, pointless and fruitless work.”
So in our modern lifeworld, we have to learn to deal with all the complexity more consciously and maybe even give up the grip on the BlackBerry or the iPhone in order to really complete a task.
Highly resilient people do not have to learn this anymore because they already have that ability in them and draw a great sense of satisfaction from it.
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Dr. Denis Mourlane is a psychotherapist and one of Europe's leading experts in economic resilience.Dr. Denis Mourlane is a former fellow of the Christoph Dornier Foundation, psychologist and psychological psychotherapist. He has been advising international companies on developing their employees and executives for over 10 years. In Germany, he is currently the exclusive provider of resilience training at the University of Pennsylvania in the team of the world-renowned Prof. Dr. Martin Seligman was developed. More information at www.mourlane.de. All texts from Dr. Denis Mourlane.
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Hello Simone and Jörg,
the Zidane example is a very special one because it always leads to very controversial discussions. Also in our trainings. Yes, it was the only possible reaction for him at the time. It wasn't his first red card because of assault. You can actually get a grip on such “freaks” quite well. But only if you also believe that it is possible, you really want it, that is, it arises from your own deep conviction. A nice question to ask yourself here: "What do I expect from a change?"
Have a good New Year!
Denis
Thanks for the note, it is worth it to think about it. Exciting discussion. Also a happy new year.
Or Gabriele? Oh, I don't know ...!
Thank you. We stay with Simone, I think ;-)
So then Uschi, Merry Christmas!
Sorry, not Monika, but Simone!
Thank you. Some people also call me Sabine, sometimes ;-)
Hello Monika and thank you for your answer! Unfortunately, I'm such a little Zidane too. I just recently lost control again (a few weeks ago) and now I am supposedly suffering from the consequences ... Probably because there was only one possible reaction for me and that meant ending a bad relationship. But that is currently still associated with a lot of pain. I want to work on my impulse control so I don't freak out so quickly. Kind regards from Rostock!
And yet it was the right and only possible reaction for Zidane.
Hi Joerg,
Personally, I found Zidane's reaction to be human and understandable - albeit rationally stupid.
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