More success in life through self-efficacy: mental training

emotional blockages can help us reach our Set very nice in ways stand. But it helps to counteract negative beliefs step by step.

Step by Step

First, focus on the belief you want to change. Be clear about this priorities. It's better to change just one belief at a time than all at once. Because one of the most common mistakes when changing thought patterns is that you try to change everything at once. Here it is important to use the salami tactic, i.e. slice by slice.

To clarify how the Method works, I'll explain it with an example sentence. I use for this one of the most common dogmas in our Society:

“I'm only loved when I Performance bring."

Doubt the doctrine of faith

The books on the subject (advertising)

Make yourself up now clearthat your previous thought pattern does not correspond to the truth. Because what's true on this one World? Isn't everything subjective anyway due to our perception?

The one judges one thing in this way, and another in another way. So your belief is subjective as well! Now write down at least three reasons why your beliefs are wrong. Why is not what you think?

For our sample set this means

My brother is loved even though he is less powerful than me. I love my parents, even if they are not performing well.

Although I have already made mistakes and did not perform well, I am loved by my partner.

Visualize in writing

Discounts for your success (advertising)!

Write down how your belief should be positive. And forms You doing this exactly so that you die change also internalize.

How should this belief be yours? Opinions after sound to make you feel better feel, perceive yourself as more valuable and thus be able to achieve your personal goals more easily in the future? Visualize this belief in writing.

Write down again three reasons why this new belief might be true. What experiences have you had in the past, which could confirm this affirmation?

New formulation and the four confirmations:

1. I am loved, just as I am.
2. If I was no longer in the world, some people would be very sad.
3. My partner likes to spend time with me. Just because.
4. I can forgive other miscompensation and forgive me mine as well.

Mental training

In the fourth step you shape your subconscious mind with your new way of thinking through a kind of mental training. You do this until it has become a new pattern of faith and works without waking consciousness.

Consciously use the new beliefs to affirm and shape your subconscious mind.

How did your previous belief come about?

For example, you say yourself audible seven times a day in a specific and, if possible, always the same situation (for example, when driving to work in the car) before you report to Executive go) your new belief.

Ask Now think about why you developed your old belief in the first place. What experiences or messages led to this?

Where did the faiths come from?

Maybe it has something to do with her Education your parents to do? Does the sentence come from your school days because teachers or classmates keep giving you this beliefspiegelt have. Or does this phrase come from previous partnerships?

Our dogmas, the truths of which we are firmly convinced, characterize us, our thoughts, feelings and actions. Often we overlook only one thing: if we believe something, that is only a possible view of things and not the whole truth.

Why are the beliefs wrong?

Again, there are three reasons to note why a certain person (or even several people) was wrong in having you think that way.

1. Why can not this person actually judge how you are in truth?
2. Perhaps because no one knows you as well as you know yourself?
3. Why should this person be able to assess what you can achieve in life and what is not?

Reasons for the old belief:

1. I am only loved when I bring performance.
2. I have a perfectionist mother and no one can do it right.
3. Perfection stands for value.
4. Resting was always designed for me as lazy, and I also needed breaks.

Forgive others

If a particular person has shared in your limiting beliefs and your bad self-confidence, then it is important that you forgive this person.

Let go. The past is no longer changeable and if you accept your development so far, you can accept and change yourself.

Make peace

Forgive that person (or people) for changing your thought patterns negative has (have) influenced. Make a written reconciliation agreement.

Aid to wording: “I make peace with…”

Act on your new belief

Prove your own self, and thus your subconscious mind, simply the opposite, acting as if you were quite different. - According to our example feel valuable, even without performance.

The best way to do this is to provide counter evidence to your old beliefs and thus evidence of your new beliefs through your daily actions. Think about what you can do to show yourself that your negative belief doesn't really apply to you.

The Success Storybook

Take time each evening and jot down in a book everything that went well that day. Where were you successfully? In the beginning, write down in particular the successes in changing your negative belief.

Most come with the onion principle described here People fine. It is clearly structured and does not require professional support in the form of a coach or therapist. It just requires a certain amount Discipline.

The onion principle

The onion principle is a step-by-step approach and change of beliefs.

This method is suitable for most introverted and altered people. This is a procedure with eight steps.

Focus on a belief that needs changing

Look at your most important and most blocking beliefs. Here are a few examples of the most common negative patterns:

1. I am only loved when I bring performance.
2. I never find a partner that suits me.
3. Life is hard.
4. All beginnings are difficult.
5. I can not do it.
6. I am not worth it.
7. I'm unimportant.
8. I'm not lovable.

And then, step by step, look how you can change it.

Top books on the subject

Read text as PDF

Acquire this text as a PDF (only for own use without passing it on according to Terms and conditions): Please send us one after purchase eMail with the desired title supportberufebilder.de, we will then send the PDF to you immediately. You can also purchase text series.

4,99€Buy

Advice on success, goal achievement or marketing

Do you have questions about careers, Recruiting, personal development or increasing reach? Our AIAdviser helps you for 5 euros a month – free for book buyers. We offer special ones for other topics IT services

5,00€ / per month   Book

Book eCourse on Demand

Up to 30 lessons with 4 learning tasks each + final lesson as a PDF download. Please send us one after purchase eMail with the desired title supportberufebilder.de. Alternatively, we would be happy to put your course together for you or offer you a personal, regular one eMail-Course - all further information!

29,99€Buy

Skate eBook as desired

If our store does not offer you your desired topic: We will be happy to put together a book according to your wishes and deliver it in a format of yours Choice. Please sign us after purchase supportberufebilder.de

79,99€Buy