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Many conflicts also arise because people do not simply express what they want, but the suppressed aggression smoldering in them until they explode. Often it would help to stop in time. accept. 7 tips.
A situation that may well be known to many: You are looking forward to your well-deserved end of the day, just want to pack up the things, then the manager stands in the door: “Could you maybe finish this calculation for tomorrow? It's really important!".
The colleagues are all gone, they have to go to theirs Family, find other good reasons or something similar. Only you can't think of a really good excuse in a hurry. So they stay and do the calculations with clenched teeth and simmering anger. Instead of closing time, i.e. working late into the night again.
The Executive is satisfied with his worker bee, but he has no idea what he has done, he probably still thinks they like doing it because they get down to work without any argument. He's not used to that from you. You've long been demotivated inside and only do work to rule.
Allerdings: Debt you are yourself too. Because you don't represent your rights and don't set limits in good time, preferring instead to work to the limits of your own capabilities - and at some point that's it Burnout the consequence.
But why, despite such obvious disadvantages, many have People Problems showing others their limits with a clear “no”? The answer lies on the Hand: There are almost always consequences for denying other people a wish or request. The other might get mad. Or be hurt.
And especially in everyday working life, it can be particularly uncomfortable when you are in front of colleagues Head bumps. Not to mention the boss, where a “no”, says the Anxiety, fast can become a career killer. Quite a few people prefer to take the path of least resistance and do what is expected of them. In this way they avoid conflicts and even learn for their commitment recognition and praise, and the one who is relieved rejoices.
But that can take bitter revenge: whoever tries to please others will soon no longer be able to do it, his real ones Tasks good to deal with. In addition, the others quickly get used to the fact that the yes man always does everything and rely on it. Over time, it becomes more and more difficult to say “no”.
But nobody manages to always do everything satisfactorily and that's exactly what it is Problem. According to a current study by the RespectResearchGroup at the University Hamburg, certain ideas about how competent and respectable people should be: namely trustworthy, reliable and fair, among other things.
Said study by Niels van Quaquebeke and Felix Brodbeck entitled “Development and initial validation of two instruments for the collection of Executives-Kategorization in German-speaking countries" was published in 2008 in the "Journal of Industrial and Organizational Psychology". It also shows that anyone who agrees to take on a task and then doesn't manage to do it due to lack of time often disappoints bosses and colleagues more than if they had turned it down straight away.
This is also confirmed by personal trainer Tanja Baum, author of the book “Die Art friendly 'No' to say”: “No one can fulfill all the wishes of the boss or colleagues, so that there is always sunshine and sunshine – especially not in everyday working life. But if you take others seriously, put yourself in their shoes and provide good arguments as to why they have to turn down a request, you will usually be understood.”
So it's almost always better to do it from the start clear To say "no". However: the sound makes the music. Other people always want to feel like they are being looked after. And especially those who refuse a request from their boss should remain friendly and give a good reason for the “no”. The trick is to say “no” in a friendly but firm manner.
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Simone Janson is publisher, Consultant and one of the 10 most important German bloggers Blogger Relevance Index. She is also head of the Institute's job pictures Yourweb, with which she donates money for sustainable projects. According to ZEIT owns her trademarked blog Best of HR – Berufebilder.de® to the most important blogs for careers, professions and the world of work. More about her im Career. All texts by Simone Janson.
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