Conquering self-doubts & focusing on goals: this is how you seize opportunities!

During the Career everyone has to deal with them: self-doubt. Self-doubt gnaws at us – more for some, less for others. Here's how to defeat them and seize opportunities.

Devil's circle of self-doubt

I, too, keep observing people who torment themselves with self-doubt or simply don't see themselves capable of a decision hold true. These people are usually very sensitive and intelligent.

And then they can't really cope with the vicious circle they're in: On the one hand, they mustn't let any doubts arise about themselves and their actions at work or at home. That could be as weakness be laid out.

On the other hand, they feel completely clearthat something is not going as planned. And who Honestly to ourselves (and that's hard enough for most people), we have to admit that the queasy feeling in our stomach triggers thoughts of doubt: "Should I or shouldn't I?"

"Should I or should not I"

This question cannot be answered with a blanket “yes” or “No" respond. That would be way too easy. We are part of a social system that influences us and that we can influence ourselves. And that in turn affects our individuality. The Personality of a person develops from his Character, his surroundings and his experiences.

The mentioned social system, in which we move, consists of several variables that influence each other. This creates control loops that can lead to a catastrophe, Crisis or collapse. However, it is also possible that there is no reaction at all.

Comprehensive system analysis

That is why a comprehensive system analysis is carried out beforehand useful. In Strategyworkshops, such analyzes last one to two days, depending on the problem. You should really take your time for such an analysis. The more accurate and detailed it is done, the better.

In this case, it is important to increase quantity, especially in terms of time invest. In hindsight, this mission will be reflected, among other things, by more Quality of life pay off. That is why an analysis that is as precise as possible is so important in advance, because it is the basis for good decisions.

What are "good" decisions?

They serve the good of all System involved actors. Objective must therefore be to increase the performance of the entire system without maneuvering itself into a critical state.

A key question that decision making supported, is: Do I still enjoy it?

That may sound selfish at first. But whoever looks more closely sees that this question turns out to be altruistic. The thesis, which is behind it, is an extremely simple one: If I am doing well, I can do good to others! Therefore, it is useful to deal with this question and its answers.

Check your system

This question can be used to “check the system” in all areas of life.

• Is there any joy with my private sitution, my home, my home, my relations with my partners, my children and my friends?
• Does my job situation, my workplace, my way to work, my colleagues, my relationships with suppliers, supporters, etc. still make me happy?

You may be overwhelmed at the beginning with your “personal system analysis feel and think: 'That's a lot of work!' Oh yes, there are actually all sorts of things coming your way. However, nobody has to carry out this analysis, it is absolutely voluntary. It's about your career, your work and your life. You have a lot of freedom and can shape your life as you wish.

Spend your life

However, I recommend that you do not always take the supposedly easiest and most convenient route. It will be of great help to you if you keep thinking about "cleaning up" in your life. You will find that there are aspects of your life that you enjoy and others that you do not. For the latter, you always have two Alternatives"Change it!” or “Leave it!”.

You will benefit if you keep following below Ask and be absolutely honest when answering them:

• How can I improve the relationship with myself, my family, my friends and fellow human beings as well as to my employees, customers and service providers?
• How can I integrate more joy into my life and how can I make my future more enjoyable overall?

Shape the future

Many people fear the unknown and feel it Future therefore often considered a threat. However, remember that it is mostly in their Hand lies in making something of your life. Be curious and open. And do you have that Courage to change, which is absolutely part of our valuable wealth of experience that we acquire in the course of our lives. And think of Hermann Hesse:

"And there is a magic inherent in every beginning,
who protects us and who helps us to live.
The world spirit does not want to bind us and narrow,
he wants to lift us step by step, to widen us.
We are hardly at home in a circle of life
and familiar with it, threatens to droop.
Only those who are ready to set out and travel
may unwind from paralyzing habituation. "

Concentrate on what pleases you

Focus on what brings you joy (things and/or people); this gives you power and strength that comes from within and boosts self-confidence. A lot grows out of this positive Energy, which you need to meet new challenges.

Feel and kindle your passion, your “soul fire”. What do you enjoy? Give in to the urge to do more with your talents and strengths! Go on a journey of discovery and take advantage of opportunities.

Great goals defeat self-doubt

In order for this to succeed and the thesis also applies to you, self-initiative is a good tool to defeat self-doubt and to let even more joy in your life. But that does not happen by itself and not overnight. You have to work for that, often very hard.

It won't always light be. But if you actually ignite your soul fire and burn for something important in your life, you will take action and do everything you can to achieve your goals. And in hindsight you will realize that this personal goal was your best motivator.

Deal with setbacks

Despite all the euphoria, we have to remain realistic. Of course, there will also be setbacks that will give you the Motivation rob. In very few cases everything goes smoothly. There will always be moments when we are far from fun and joy. We have all experienced this several times. In such a phase, the most important thing is the inner attitude:

• Do I want to reach the goal and am I ready to do everything necessary or even more - or I do not want that?
• This is one of the most important decisions that you must make and which determines your further path.

Conclusion

Self-doubts are important. They stimulate thinking. One question you can use to rethink your decision is “Does it make you happy?” Discover discover in yourself what you really enjoy. This will defeat your self-doubts.