Closing with the self-blocking in the profession

Mindfuck Job is already the fourth book in Petra Bock's successful Mindfuck series. This time it's all about how and with what we block ourselves in the job. A very catchy practical book, awarded as a trainer book of the year 2015.

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In her fourth book in the Mindfuck series, Petra Bock describes the self-blockages that prevent many people from leading a fulfilling professional life. She summarizes the most important self-blockages in so-called “mindfucks” – inner dialogues that ultimately lead to self-sabotage.

As with “Mindfuck”, Petra Bock draws from a wealth of resources and successfully combines elements of transaction analysis and that Coaching. With many examples from her everyday coaching, Petra Bock shows how new strength can be released just by recognizing acts of self-sabotage.

Small mistakes that affect our lives

“Our brain sometimes plays tricks on us, big and small: for example, when we are misled by our expectations. 100 examples that show what you can do about it.

It's always exciting to see how small mistakes we make in our expectations and actions. As a rule, it's rather small things, but in their entirety they have a great impact on our lives.

Psychological traps lurk everywhere in everyday life

The author Jana Nikitin and Marie Hennecke listed 100 such psychological traps in their book – today's book of the week. Exciting, interesting and entertaining!

Would you have one colleagues asking for a favor again if they said “no” the first time? Probably not, because you automatically expect another rebuff. But it is too short-sighted. Because the probability that a "yes" will follow is significantly higher, because otherwise the "discomfort" of the refusing colleague would also increase.

Where brain and perception play a trick

The writers Jana Nikitin and Marie Hennecke, selected by the editors Jana Nikitin and Marie Hennecke, do not need more than one double page to describe their amazing, sometimes amusing results. Here is a selection:

“100 Psychological Thought Traps” is a clever and exciting book,
that with its interesting excursions into the knowledge of the Psychology
Catchy shows how much our small and large decisions are made by
psychological contexts are influenced. Very useful and

The big lie of the unlimited possibilities

And now we discuss a book that provides helpful food for thought with the multi-option world clear get. Good brain food for the younger generation who don't just want to carry on as before - and of course the same for the older generation.

More than a dozen different yoghurt varieties in the refrigerator compartment, 30 new partn suggestions in the Internet single exchange and the planned summer holiday to Mallorca, are more than 50 potential last minute bargains open? Is this the beautiful new freedom?

Decisions about life and death

Not at all, says Renata Salecl in her clever book “The Tyranny of Freedom”. The almost unlimited freedom of choice does not solve problems, but creates new ones. “Fears and oppressions,” says the author, are encouraged because the seemingly larger selection and variety of everything increases the pressure to make decisions, and with it the risk of wrong decisions.

The “more possibilities” is also not evenly distributed, but follows the strict rules of social stratification: “In reality, economic constraints prevent people from all countries from making any real choices, with the result that the wrong choice can have catastrophic consequences.”

Red card for the affluent society

In her analysis, Salecl shows that the decision-making principle encompasses all areas of life. Consumption anyway, the choice of partner (“hook-up culture”) to dealing with life and death. Because those who only invest enough money can “hide the signs of aging and find a way to postpone or even stop death.”

The popular science book "The Tyranny of Freedom" shows the affluent society the red card. In the spirit of Ulrich Beck's individualization theory, Renata Salecl explains that the seductions of mass consumption do not make you happier, but produce new constraints and at the same time make differences in status visible:

Choose correctly and learn to say no

The one suffer from too many options in the supermarket, the others have none and look at an empty plate. A very good book, which encourages us to rethink our own behavior and reorient it in case of doubt. Note: We are not alone in the world.

Aggression expert and criminologist Prof. Jens Weidner turns the tables. He no longer tries, as he did at the beginning of his career, to break the habit of aggressive behavior in young violent offenders, but shows those who usually lose out on the job how they can defend themselves. Exciting and instructive for everyone who has their husbands and theirs on the job Ms. have to stand.

Conclusion with the cuddly course

Jens Weidner is a criminologist and an aggression expert. Adolescent delinquents, he has helped in the past, through special anti-aggression therapies, to reintegrate into society.

In his book “Hard, but unfair”, he takes the opposite approach: No more cuddling and quiet tears. “Aggro” and resistance are the order of the day! Of course, this does not apply to criminals, but to good employees in the Company. The “Duckmäuse” and “Ja-Sager”, who regularly lose out in the job to colleagues and superiors because they “let them do it with them”.

Aggro is doing well

That is the end! Weidner becomes the “Advocatus Diaboli” and pleads for uncompromising resistance when you finally want to assert your interests. Cardboard organizers sometimes fly through the office and leave unsightly discolorations on the face of the colleague (the bastard).

Afterwards, he not only learned a headache, but also his lesson. And you will be rewarded with the certainty that you have finally given up the role of victim. “A little bit more aggro brings a lot. Above all, more self-respect. And that's just good for you! ”

Practice the “no” in the 4-eyes monologue

Weidner divides his “defend yourself” coaching into ten chapters with practical exercises and tasks, many case studies and memorable guiding principles. You will learn step by step how to “find valuable allies and keep opponents at bay”. How you are taken seriously and Bullying- Skillfully parry attacks. How to quickly counter malice instead of shedding tears.

And of course also how you finally say “No” when you think “No” anyway. “This is not rocket science, it just has to be practiced. Preferably in front of the bathroomspiegelIn private with yourself, so to speak. And the sound makes the music. Polite but firm is considered the ideal mix. "

Against the backdrops of professional life

In the end, you will be able to react “anticipatively” to aggro and are therefore well protected from nasty surprises, because your new knowledge will make your professional life predictable. ”

Weidner knows them well, the "sneaks of professional life" that spoil the fun at work for many employees. His book is dedicated to “active victim protection” in the workplace: Anyone who no longer wants to be a doormat for their colleagues will find the right set of pointed boots in “Hart aber unfair” so that they can kick them themselves in the future if need be.

Shame on you - no more!

The softskills also include a very professional dealing with (supposedly) embarrassing situations. One thing you can learn and start with the evaluation of the situation. A beautiful guide to the sovereign handling of spilled coffee, Freudian promises and other mishaps, provides very vividly Gitte Harder in her new book.

Everyone knows them, the situations in which one (and woman, of course, too) wants to sink into the ground with shame. Sometimes a thoughtless statement is enough to expose itself to the laughter and ridicule of its fellow men.

Stay relaxed - even when things go wrong

Most of us get over it easily and, over time, even turn one or two mishaps into a charming, self-ironic anecdote that friends like to tell. Others nibble on the embarrassments of the past for years and develop a panicked fear of another faux pas in public. Gitte Härter dedicates her book “Embarrassing, embarrassing…” to these people.

The most important rule is: stop thinking in pigeonholes about your own claims to perfection. Anyone who believes "I'll never learn this" has the best chance of failing the next time. Better: lower your own expectations, Error allow and admit. That makes you relaxed, especially when you actually slide into an uncomfortable situation.

Summonsurium of embarrassments

Gitte Härter prepares you excellently for these cases with sample sets that you can literally rehearse. For all situations in which faux pas lurk, from “clueless” to “caught cold” to “leaning too far out of the window”. In each of the scenarios, the author shows how you can confidently wriggle out of it.

This works well, provided you have internalized the underlying principle: If something embarrassing happens to you, please don't deny it, and especially not with big ones gestures to exaggerate one's own inadequacy. Instead, simply ignore the mishap, defuse the supposed embarrassment with a smile and a little joke or a short apology. That is almost always sufficient.

Embarrassing, Embarrassing is a friendly and very upbeat book that I am sure you will enjoy reading. You will not be spared embarrassment afterwards, but the small defeats of everyday life will certainly lose their horror and meaning."

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