Feigning hopelessness & mental self-boycott

Pretend hopelessness - that's what many do People gladly, who would rather become a victim than be active.

I do not know what the new job might look like

There are people who still beat their bolts with the hammer in the wall. You may guess that this may not be the best way, but do not know better tools. Instead of finding out and looking for a tool to fasten their screws more successfully (screwdrivers!), They insist on not knowing where and how they might look. No idea, no alternative.

It looks like this: “I would like to start looking for a new job – but I have no idea what it might look like. ideas unfortunately I don't have any. All I know is that I would rather give up my current job today than tomorrow. But as long as I don't know where I want to go, I'd better stay where I am at the moment." And now?

Lack of ideas or no desire to search

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Only brave people and those who really can no longer stand their situation quit their employment without an alternative in the Sinn (or even an employment contract in your pocket). The others go looking for it - or they stay where they are and explain this with their lack of ideas. In doing so, they've probably never seriously pursued it Alternatives searched.

This Strategy follows an impressively simple logic: “I just don't know what job I might like. So I'm leaving everything as it is." The possibility that there could be an interesting job that you are just not aware of is consistently ignored. But why?

A tunnel without exits

People who have followed a job for a very long time often have no idea what alternatives it can offer them. It then seems to them that the usual job is the only possible - because they have avoided so far, sometimes look beyond their own.

But when it's getting unbearable and you can't imagine the time until pension the situation seems hopeless to persist in the current way. Like driving through a tunnel with no exits. Then all that remains is: "I just have to go through with it!"

There are alternatives - you just have to know them

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Objectively speaking, there are a number of possibilities for each reorienter - better and worse, some are associated with disadvantages, others need training or appear to be difficult to realize at first glance.

If I don't know my alternative yet, it's on the Hand, that I am looking for it, researching, examining, questioning, discarding, a narrower one selection form and finally one decision meet This search process requires Commitment, time and the Courageto deal with new things.

Confronting one's own borders

Perhaps the most difficult thing is confronting one's own limits: when I'm thinking about an attractive career idea, I'm faced with the question of mine Competencies not over.

This question is more than uncomfortable for many people when their self-image is incomplete and negative is colored. Such a search process is not exactly a walk in the park - no wonder if we go along with it Resistance encounter!

Faith gives security?

From this point of view, our strategy of “advanced hopelessness” makes perfect sense: I'd rather stick to my belief that I have no professional alternative than to deal with the pitfalls of searching for it.

This also explains the vehemence with which some people defend their lack of ideas - not only to themselves, but also to others. Because we often involve other people in order to express our inner resistors to confirm.

Complaints rather than action

You certainly know people who use every opportunity to complain about their job and then stress that they do not see an alternative for themselves or that there is simply no one.

This statement probably triggers the impulse to make constructive suggestions and possibly make a real effort to find them. You want to be rewarded with a sentence like: “Yes, that's a great idea; I could really try that, thank you! ”

The supporter who confirms the hopelessness

Unfortunately, he will never come when the apparently seeking advice follows the strategy of hopelessness: on the contrary, he will do everything possible to explain every proposal and every puzzle piece of an idea as personally inappropriate and unrealizable. Because he does not really want to hear a good idea, but only in his hopelessness to be strengthened.

The ideal Objective Such a conversation is achieved for him when the willing supporter realizes that there is really no alternative for the poor discontented person.

The needy who does not want help

In the end, there is usually frustration and sometimes even anger because the helper realizes that the person opposite does not want to be helped at all. Even friendships can have such dynamics light in a Crisis devices!

How about you? Invest occasionally Energyto keep explaining to yourself and others that you see no professional alternative for yourself?

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