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Meetings without bosses: 9 tips against self-actors in the team

Many go in, little comes out - this is the popular opinion about meetings. The fact that meetings often fail can be due to many factors. One of them that we want to shed light on here is the self-expression of Team-Members. But what to do about it?

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Meetings are affected by the human factor

What do we have at Best of HR -® not all written about meetings. How to make them more efficient, how to prepare them in a targeted manner; how celebrities organize their meetings and much more. And it shows again and again: Unfortunately, the wicked tongues are not entirely wrong.

One aspect, however, we have neglected so far: that many meetings simply sickened by the human factor. Because instead of serving as a place for a productive, open exchange, meetings are too often abused by those colleagues and bosses as a stage, which have a penchant for public speaking and self-expression.

Meetings - the perfect stage for self-promotion

I remember a job many years ago: during the Manager Talking and talking for hours, simply unimportant stuff and visibly in love with his own statements, I wondered with concern how I could still get on with my job amid all the talk. While my office colleague did him the favor of adoring him the whole time, by the way.

Only years later did I look back Sense understood such rituals: That meetings in many cases actually have the task of providing a stage for self-promoters. And bosses in particular like to take advantage of this situation. The result - the productive cooperation and the joint decision - quickly becomes a minor matter.

Meetings: According to science, that's going wrong

Annegret Bolte, Judith Neumer and Stephanie Porschen of the Institute for Social Science Research (ISF) in Munich described in detail in a study for the Hans Böckler Foundation a few years ago, what goes wrong with meetings.

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One point is precisely that self-expression. Because, according to the scientists, meetings all too often offer an arena for competitive battles for many participants. It is not uncommon for the question to be: “Who is the stronger? Who will win the next exchange of blows? "

The fear of "verbal thugs"

No wonder, says the study, that some employees develop a real fear of meetings. Because either you sit quietly next to it and have to listen to the exchange of blows - or you become a target yourself.

And above all, the whole thing is one thing: a waste of time. For many, the "solution" to the problem is to somehow endure the meeting and hope to get through it unscathed. That's a shame, because with a few simple rhetorical tricks you can turn the tide even as a simple participant, not just as a leader or moderator.

As co-moderator take the helm

Exactly: Even if you do not moderate yourself, you can use some casual remarks to steer the discussion back into calmer lines and structure it. So get the other participants to continue the discussion constructively.

So what if Kollege steals everybody's show again or open conflicts arise? And how do you manage indirectly to bring the boss with his airs to reason? Here are some tips to get the meeting back on track.

9 Tips: How to get a meeting back on track?

  1. If other participants deviate from the topic, you can structure the discussion again: "I suggest that we discuss this proposal first and then that."
  2. Try one Konfliktto direct the focus on the matter: "I'm interested in hearing other opinions on this topic so that we can get a more objective picture."
  3. If colleague Important deviates again: Bring him back to the topic by reminding the others. Just ask "What are we talking about here?"
  4. If the colleague is nevertheless self-importantly biting on the topic and concentrating on the conflict, not the matter: Just take a flight forward and ask for more specific information. "Who is involved?" "Would you like to tell us exactly how it was?"
  5. Careful and indirect questions, such as more information, are also useful in getting bosses back on track.
  6. Just test whether other participants understood what it was about: "Can you tell me how you understood colleague F.?"
  7. You make a speech and colleague Important drives you into the parade, because he has to represent himself? Respond constructively to objections and try to engage the other participants by asking your interlocutors to ask for more information and backgrounds. But complete the discussion with your own facts.
  8. Summarize the important statements and the result achieved so far: "We found out that ... and then found out that ..."
  9. Identify points of consensus and show the participants the success of the meeting: "So we have achieved that ...", "We have now reached an agreement".

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7 responses to "Meetings without boss attitudes: 9 tips against self-promotion in the team"

  1. Justin Oberdick says:

    Yes, I know that very well from everyday work, that always others steal the show. Thank you for this important topic.

  2. Daniel says:

    I can only advise anyone to start their own business, so you do not have to go to boring meetings.

  3. Maria C. says:

    On your side you will always find very helpful tips, thanks for that.

  4. Sahara says:

    Very important and interesting contribution, because that really happens very often!

  5. Andrea Koepf says:

    Very cool site here, thank you for your important contribution to the topic of Meetings!

  6. Sandra Rosetti says:

    I have the experience that in spite of all Selbstdarstellerei in the end on achievement arrives!

  7. Roland says:

    Unfortunately everyone is the next person in the meeting!

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