Jealousy & Loneliness in Social Communication: 3 Tips for Dealing with Envious People

Envy is actually a nasty feeling. It affects everyone at some point, especially when you lonely is. At the beginning you don't notice it at all, but then it has changed People eaten into it and in the end you are completely consumed by it.

Envy: The Unimagined Calculus of Humans

For a few months now, through my own experience, I have been observing the subject of envy more closely - with myself but also with others. And I found: There are differences between small everyday envy, for example, on the new chic upper part of colleague A or the new car of colleague B, but also far more dangerous forms that are often characterized by the dynamization of such everyday envy.

When the envious admiration of the beautiful top slowly turns into envy of the figure that Performance and other areas arises, it does not take long before the actually positive element of envious admiration is added to a negative element of envy.

The distorted image in secret

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This is where the talking begins, the first remarks and the environment contributes or dampens them Opinions. In any case, however, a development takes place which, without the active involvement of those affected and above all in secret, creates a distorted picture.

At the same time, however, this means that followers will find a speech tube. It is precisely the passive endurance which is a danger to those affected: it offers an extension of the working space by doing nothing - even if the silvers do not agree with the opinion of the opposite, they give the envious person a stage.

Excludes envy

This creates a complex network of relationships between envious, envied person and silent tolerators. Of course, this is only a model of thought and the actual balance of power may also look different under certain circumstances. At the core, however, it becomes one clear: Envy excluded.

In this respect, encouragement can only come from the ranks of the sufferers, since they have the information at all to warn the envied.

Envy and social media

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Of course, the envied also notices that something is wrong. Sometimes, however, you simply perceive this feeling as a temporary phenomenon and do not really measure it.

In a social Network moves a person who constantly attracts attention through disputes with third parties. At first, this is not perceived as such, since the person appears very friendly. Eventually, that person uses their professional Status and in the end you feel brought into a situation that you no longer understand.

How to handle enviers?

Of course, it often seems easy to find a remedy - after all, you can block users. But social networks as a special form of Communication have the disadvantage that a) communication continues on stage without the person concerned and b) all statements can be found using search functions.

Similar things can be heard from the universities, where fellow students, out of sheer envy, do not allow grades or work materials to disappear. The situation could be as follows: Two people do not like each other and while one person speaks badly, the other person ignores it and annoys him in silence.

If the envy would jump out of the face

The fellow students stand next to it and feel into one decision urged: many are silent, others join in. Classically, as shown in the model - and then it happens that the envy becomes so dynamic that work materials disappear, requests to speak are commented on by facial expressions and/or gestures or the volume increases exponentially. How do you deal with such people and situations?

It would be much easier if people were to speak envy literally off the face. Thus many a very beautiful person would become a grimace, or with his fingers, which could be pointed like arrows, would hurt other people directly. But since this is more of a wish than an actual event to be expected, the following information is worthwhile.

3 Tips for dealing with Neidernes

1. Tolerance is never a way out. If a person speaks retrospectively, one should point out to these people that they do not agree with it. If no reassurance occurs, you should go to the envied person and inform about it.
2. Transparency is important. Whoever thinks that it will somehow clarify, must be aware that passivity is also a form of encouragement. To this extent, efforts should be made to create transparency in such situations by acting either through active communication or through passive avoidance of this person.
3. Consider criminal law consequences. Especially in work situations, it is difficult to decide, but it is worth the envious person to show the consequences.

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