Being nice actually helps in all circumstances. But it has to be real: The better you know yourself and recognize, if niceness is applied or genuine.

Good behavior for executives: Being authentically nice has advantages

Executive - soft or dominant?

Between bosses and their employees for sure a closer and more long-term relationship than at the counter, at the doctor's or at the judge's.

It's a dilemma. If you are too dominant as a manager, you will not be liked. Are you too nice, don't sit like that light through and the Employees dance around on you sometimes.

To be nice without being considered submissive?

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When you think of nice, you likely think of polite, kind, but also submissive. Indeed, it is easy to confuse niceness with submissiveness, but there is no connection between the two terms.

To be submissive means to submit to the will of another person or thing, while being nice is defined as being kind, polite, and benevolent. And a Executive can be nice, kind, and polite without being considered submissive. But it's a tightrope walk.

Management by buddy widespread in Germany

Management by mate is often to be found in Germany, i.e. a relatively relaxed way of dealing with one another. On the other hand, dominance and niceness are often seen as opposing poles. But is it really these two extremes that make it so difficult?

Many employees are on first-name terms with each other and the boss and you behave in the Everyday life more like colleagues than like boss and “subordinate”. That changes with larger ones Company and older executives.

Authority in danger?

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But even there it is by no means so strict Guide by instructions, as is the case in many other countries. There is the hierarchy clear and dominance is lived out and accepted.

Management by mates holds dangers. At least many fear this because you see your authority at risk. To a buddy opposite are faster times a loose saying or even clear words said.

It's worth to be nice

But numerous studies show: Peoplethat we like, we prefer to support. Loyalty increases towards nice bosses and that Engagement.

Being nice is not worth it for bosses. So studies show why it's worth being nice.

Examples of nice, ongoing behavior

Here are four examples:

The same applies to the Communication and the collaboration between boss and employees. Because employees are only human.

Employees are only human

Therefore, a tormented smile in the morning or clichéd praise is not enough. If you perceive your employees as human beings and show them the likeable side, this has above all positive Follow us:

Being nice does not mean adapting to others

So there are a lot of advantages to working with its employees. But that does not mean to offer you a drink in the evening and to have a barbecue or a sport at the weekend.

Because that's where the misunderstanding happens. German Executives often believe that if you are nice to each other, you have to adapt to the other person in general.

When typical boss signals are missing

You can see that, for example, in the clothes that don't belong to the bossStatus corresponds, but is just as casual as that of the employees and sends out the signal: I'm your buddy, you can trust me

Or that in terms of seating arrangements, Behavior among themselves or in relation to others and the like, there are hardly any differences to be made out. In truth, it is not about better leadership, but about the personal feeling of the leader: they want to be loved and liked.

Bosses also want to feel like good people

You have to say: It goes without saying that being nice to others is a wonderful thing. And it's also true that being nice can have a significant impact on how our everyday work goes:

We feel just feel better when we're nice. But that doesn't mean that as a leader, you should avoid conflict in order to be nice and not offend anyone. In moments like this, it becomes clear that being nice can also have its downsides.

Why authority is still important

Authority is important, otherwise instructions are not taken seriously. However, authority has nothing to do with gross dominance or making the employee feel in every situation that he is "only the employee" and you are the boss. This other extreme can also be experienced frequently.

This not only seems aloof to German employees, but also encourages boycotts and sabotage on a small scale: "Let the boss find out for himself that Company XY is angry. I won't tell him! After that it's my fault again...” or “The boss doesn't seriously believe that I'm with him salary also do something on Saturday!”

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