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Friendships with colleagues in the workplace: 10 Tips for dealing with the private in the job

Friendships in the workplace are a difficult topic, which is inherent not only in various studies, but also in the frequency of interview requests that we get for ZEIT or MAXI, for example. Correct handling of the topic is particularly important for prospective managers.

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New Work: Positiv or Negative?

Friendships in the workplace - and not just in Germany - are still viewed with mixed feelings. On the one hand, studies show that working with friends is good for the working environment and makes it more productive.

Such an investigation at Columbia University, which showed that colleagues who liked each other and helped each other were much more productive than those who were dedicated to the job. For this reason, StartUps in the course of the New Work designated working culture promote joint leisure activities such as holidays, sports and parties

Leisure - better not with colleagues?

On the other hand, the mixing of professional and private life is accompanied with much skepticism - not always wrongly. The sales director of Google, which has decisively kicked off this trend, does not participate in the game, as she said in an interview. Excitingly, I found in this context the statement of the Google Sales Director Fionnuala Meehan, She explained to me in an interview in Dublin:

So I do not spend my free time with colleagues. It is important to me that I have a different life besides Google and for example eat dinner with my family at 18 every day. Therefore, it is time for 16 or 17 clock for me. I do not work at the weekend.

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Studies show: Dear job and private separate

The Gallup Institute, for example, found in a survey of around five million employees that 30 percent of employees have a so-called best friend in the office. More than half of them, namely 56 percent, are fully committed to their work.

Of the remaining 70 percent, only eight percent were enthusiastic about their job, 63 percent did service and 29 percent even noticed negative comments about their job. A survey by Monster.de also shows that just over one third of all employees separate their private life and job strictly.

What benefits do friends bring to work?

The connection between feelings of friendship, working atmosphere and increased performance is evident: Those who get on well with their colleagues have more fun and are therefore more productive. Nevertheless, caution is sometimes required - because friends can be chosen, colleagues cannot. As soon as relationship and factual level mix with each other, you can conflicts arise.

It becomes problematic, for example, if the one wants more than a collegial relationship, but the other does not. Or if Tischnachber likes to tell piquant details from his private life, which one would rather not hear. As most people want a harmonious day of work, they are unsure whether they can put such colleagues in the way.

And what problems arise?

Another problem is envy, which is the result of a sudden career of fellow colleagues - and the other does not. Or when private information is misused to gain a professional advantage.

Depending on the intensity of the relationship, one should also address such negative feeling, because to a certain extent such behavior is normal. In a normal working relationship, on the other hand, a substantive conversation about the new situation is enough.

Is a knit separation of private life and work day meaningful?

In turn, however, it is not useful to separate private life and professionalism. Apart from the fact that this is now becoming increasingly rare, conflicts can hardly be avoided in the long run. On the contrary, whoever avoids the need for private contacts is soon seen to be unsympathetic and is mutually exclusive, which in the long run also hurts the career.

And there is one more aspect to consider: Today, thanks to the flexible forms of work, you have frequent location and Job change fewer and fewer opportunities to establish and maintain intensive private relationships outside of work. Plus, you inevitably talk more about what you spend your day doing, work. Anyone who cannot compensate for this will have big problems if they lose their jobs.

10 Tips for dealing with friendships at the workplace

Friendships in the workplace can make working easier, but can also lead to conflicts. 10 tips for proper handling.

  1. No avoidance attitude: Humans are social beings - also and especially at work. It therefore does not do anything to exclude private things in the job
  2. Draw boundaries: Not everyone is sympathetic and you don't have to exchange the most private details with everyone. Make clearwhere your limits are.
  3. Talking openly about problems: There is potential for conflict in every human relationship. Talk openly about your problems and try to solve them that way.
  4. Do not blaspheme: Even if it seems tempting: With friendly colleagues on the Manager blaspheme, could go to the eye.
  5. Social contacts outside: Even if it is difficult: Take care also of social contacts outside their jobs. Otherwise, your friendships will be lost when you lose your job.
  6. Do not be distracted: Here is a chat, as a coffee: Even if you work with friends, the job should not be a chat hour - otherwise there is trouble with the boss.
  7. Distinctive distance: Distinguish between real friends and friendly colleagues. Private contacts are ok, but some things you should also keep to yourself with good friends.
  8. What the boss says: Employers can neither ask nor forbid private contacts at the workplace.
  9. Beware of flirtatiousness: when the line of privacy is crossed, love is not far. Many employers do not like to see this because of the potential for conflict.
  10. Social networks: Pay attention to what you reveal about your work on social networks such as Twitter or Xing - especially if the boss is also one of your friends. But: especially Facebook can be set so that not everyone notices everything.

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